My partner has a problem with alcohol/drugs, and it's affecting his behavior, our finances, and our relationship. I don't know how to help him or if I can continue to live like this.

Practice mindfulness exercises to stay present and reduce rumination, and develop self-soothing strategies to manage anxious feelings.

Engage in individual therapy to process past traumas, develop coping mechanisms for anxiety, and build self-esteem.

Research and discuss various relationship structures or timelines that might exist beyond the traditional model.

Clearly define what marriage and starting a family mean to each of you and what steps are typically involved in reaching those milestones.

Have a direct conversation about how the relationship fits into their long-term career plans and if they see a future where both can be prioritized.

Discuss if there are alternative ways for your partner to achieve their career goals that might be more compatible with a settled life, or if the 5-10 year timeline is flexible.

Create a safe space to openly discuss any anxieties or hesitations each person has about the other's desired path.

Encourage each partner to explore their underlying motivations and fears through journaling or individual therapy to gain self-awareness.

Brainstorm creative solutions that might allow for periods of travel interspersed with periods of settling down, or explore ways to integrate family life with travel.

Dedicate time to discuss and map out both individual and shared long-term life goals, identifying potential overlaps and areas of compromise.